Causes
Other Cultures do not have these Inhibitions
In other cultures and at other times, sexuality, not marriage, was and is a sacrament, a holy thing, the sexual act itself a method of worshiping divinity.
All of it, mind—not just church approved missionary.
Yes, that means double stuffed anal followed by drinking your own chocolate cream pie can be your way of worshiping god.
Stop laughing; I’m serious.
Also, If you’re squirming right now, I’d like to say I’m sorry, but that would be a lie.
NOTE: The subject of the ritual (Read: religious) application of sex is beyond the scope of this essay, but is well worth exploring.
Ancient Causes
I used the phrase ‘sexually liberated.’
Liberated from what, exactly? Who imprisoned our sexuality and why?
I know what you’re all thinking: religion—especially (though not exclusively) the Western variety. While that is true, the rot goes a lot deeper. (vide Modern Causes infra.)
I don’t need to go into any detail as to the particulars, except to point out one hopeful development: the influence of religion in the West has been fading for fifty years; in the last twenty, precipitously so. (vide America’ Changing Religious Landscape.)
The repression of our sexual selves by religion is one of the most serious crimes ever perpetrated against humanity.
Modern Causes
In our attempts to fix the problems caused by our repressed sexual attitudes, we have made some titanic mistakes. The worst of them were byproducts of two of our greatest successes.
*Author takes a deep, calming breath as he dons padded armour and crash helmet.*
Here we go.
There are two tightly integrated cultural influences that have had a large, accidentally negative influence on our sexual selves. These are: The Sexual Revolution and The Women’s Liberation Movement.
*Author ducks and covers, wincing.*
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Before you break out the cross and nails, lemme ‘splain.
First let me clearly state my personal stance—I have been a proud feminist since the tender age of nine. Why from so young an age? That would be would be too a long digression for this essay.
Before explaining where we went off the rails, I will summarize the great good both developments achieve.
The Sexual Revolution was not only critically important, it was way overdue. Sex is like any other appetite. It’s satiation should elicit no more comment that the appetite for food or sleep.
The Women’s Liberation Movement—inherited from the Suffragette Movement, and continued today in the Feminist Movement—battles one of the most prevalent and harmful cultural delusions of humanity—that there are non-trivial difference among the sexes.
Let me be clear, all the real differences among men, women, and intersexed persons are ephemeral. None of these differences—taken singly or collectively—are adequate justification for treating some humans differently from others. Not even close.
And yes, I am strongly asserting, for the record, that even the capacity for pregnancy is a trivial difference. Don’t agree with me? We can take it outside. I will educate you properly.
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The current trend of deconstructing the notion of gender is a direct result of the realization that we have made artificial definitions of what our individual sexes mean and mistaken them for something real.
Knowing, as we now do, that gender (I am not speaking of sexual identity here, but only how we present ourselves to, and are understood by, society) is a cultural construct, many of us are building gender personas in the same way—and with the same intent—as we build our wardrobes. That is, to better present our inner selves.
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Pardon the digression. Back to the subject at hand.
When it comes to sexual mores, we really fucked it.
Apart from all the good they did, both The Sexual Revolution and The Women’s Liberation Movement ended up ingraining in the collective psyche a peculiar, harmful kind of respect for a woman’s sexuality.
Isn’t that a good thing?
Not in the way it has manifested, no.
This version of ‘respect’ went way off the rails, largely due to existing delusions about women and sex.
Respect for the personhood of women extended into the realm of sexual fantasy. This is an area it doesn’t belong.
Sexual activity is one of the arenas of human life where make-believe is a good thing.
According to the twisted kind of respect we ended up being saddled with, I’m not allowed to smack her ass, pull her hair and call her a dirty slut as I bend her over the back of the couch and drill her in the ass.
No.
That would be disrespectful⸮
Those of you tittering right now, stop it. Those frowning, suck it up.
No longer are women ashamed of their sexual desires and fantasies because sex is evil.
Now they’re ashamed because if they want a man to smack them in the face with his dick then give them a sloppy facial, they’re letting the side down.
I mean it you guys! Grow up.
Liberated women are supposed to demand the respect they deserve, especially when it comes to sex.
And the men!
Poor bastards feel like Ted Bundy for wanting to collar their women and make them beg for an orgasm as they rim their Lord and Master. Such fantasies surely deserve castration!⸮
See that I mean?
